First dates explained

Some friends of mine and I were looking at the Geek 2 Geek online dating web site in the hopes of some ESR Sex Tips for Geeks-style entertainment. The Top Ten Geekiest Dates was a gold mine – “geekiest” not being used in the positive sense here. But when we read their tips for first dates, we found ourselves nodding in agreement and admiring the clarity of the explanation. In the spirit of public service, I thought I’d post it here for all to read:

What to do on a First Date

We did get one laugh out of it – the suggestion to have a friend call your cell phone on the First Date so that you can, wait for it – NOT ANSWER THE PHONE. This is so you have a guaranteed opportunity to prove to your date that you consider them important. (The advice not to answer your cell phone is good – I’d extend it to checking text messages and email.)

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7 thoughts on “First dates explained”

  1. The ‘What to do on a first date’ piece is well written. I’d also add: groom, don’t smell like pee, dress appropriately, brush your teeth and your tongue, arrive sober, and just be yourself.

  2. From TFA: “Are you hungry? There’s a great Chinese restaurant a few blocks away.” This gives her the option, she can say she’s not really hungry (meaning, she’s not interested)

    Or maybe it means she’s not really hungry? Maybe this is why I suck at human interaction…

  3. Why is it written for a male (and hetero) audience? I see a female geek in the logo, too. *head asplosion*

    But the phone thing is good.

  4. So, a few points are written specifically for the male hetero, it is true, but the majority of the advice is applicable in any situation. I liked the summary about gender roles at the end – “we have a long way to go, this is how it is right now and what people expect, here’s how to push the boundaries.” Altogether about 10 times better than anything else I’ve read.

  5. I agree with you about the value and generality of the advice, I was just a bit confused that all the third-person pronouns were female, when the advice clearly works for either gender. Just seemed odd, more than anything!

  6. Interestingly, Chinese and Indians prioritize mobile phone usage, even when they are running a meeting or performing a wedding ceremony. Though surely they’d still be flattered if you waive your mobile-phone-answering prerogative to focus on your date.

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